Sunday, April 17, 2011
PSEUDO RELATIONSHIP
She is a 24-year old copywriter. He is an architect. They met and became lovers in college. They broke up last year but remained to be "friends." They send sweet text messages and he calls her often to make sure she’s okay. They still date. They still have sex. They don’t see anyone else. It is obvious that they still love each other but when asked about their situation, she doesn’t know the real score. Even her friends are in the dark. "Parang sila, pero hindi." She works in a telecom. He is reviewing for the board. They are in the same barkada. They talk on the phone till 4 am. He gives her chocolates, flowers and CDs even when there is no occasion. Their friends are suspecting something. Bakit sila nagsosolo kapag may overnight inuman? Why does he hold her close on the dance floor? Bakit sila magkaholding hands lagi? Sila kaya? "He hasn’t admitted anything," she rants. "But I let him hug and kiss me. Parang kami, pero hindi." They work together in an ad agency. After office, they would watch movie, have dinner and stroll at Glorietta. She gave him Harry Potter books for his birthday in exchange for posing as her boyfriend to make an ex jealous. They made out during the company outing in Subic and never talked about it. He said "I love you" once but she wasn’t sure if she heard him correctly because they were both drunk then. But one thing she is sure of is her feelings for him. She likes him. And she’s assuming that with what he’s doing to her and with her, he likes her, too.
There’s just one hitch: he has a girlfriend! She is a 28-year-old virgin. He’s a 35-year-old bachelor. Both mountaineers, they became close during their climbs. After a few dates in posh restaurants, he brings her to his condo where they would make out. They have been doing this for months. She wants to believe that "sila na" but then she’s not really sure about it. "We don’t talk about it but it doesn’t really matter," she’d tell her friends. "What’s important is I am enjoying this — whatever it is." The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual understanding. Pseudo-relationship s. Pseudo- boyfriends. Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers. Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala. One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi kayo mag-dyowa. Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi. This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other, and you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. And for reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan. It can also happen before a relationship, yung pareho kayong nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna.
Testing lang. Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo –usually the guy –may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon sa girl (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di naman niya ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo." This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro." Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan. So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan? Iba’t ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang. Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa w ala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom." Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian. For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig" feeling. But although it was only a pseudo-relationship , the emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae lagi ang lugi.
Una, you can’t ask him to commit. Since it’s not really a relationship, you can’t demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga ba magpasundo ng hating gabi? You will always be uncertain about your role in his life. You can’t expect him to be always there with you. And if you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos? PangalawaBaka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can’t. Because you’re not sure if he’ll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang. This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship. Or if there is a relationship at all. Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn’t? What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys, only to find out that he is seeing other girls? Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationship s, it is fleeting. When a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship . Wala kang pinanghahawakan. Kasi sa pseudo-relationship , there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me," hindi "us." Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi eh. Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo- relationship, hindi mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody else. Ang hirap, ano?
You agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then you’d end up hurting yourself in the process. Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh. Puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences. But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing. Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo. Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang "parang kayo pero hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo. Usually, hanggang doon lang siya … Almost, but not quite.
This is without a doubt one of the nicest good luck forwards I have
received.
Hope it works for you - and me
Lotus Totus:
You have 6 minutes
There’s some mighty fine advice in these words, even if you’re not
superstitious. This Lotus Totus has been sent to you for good luck.
It has been sent around the world ten times so far.
Do not keep this message.
The Lotus Totus must leave your hands in 6 MINUTES. Otherwise you will get
a very unpleasant surprise. This is true, even if you are not
superstitious, agnostic, or otherwise faith impaired.
ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their
conversational skills will be as important as any other.
THREE. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you
want.
FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.
FIVE. When you say, "I’m sorry," look the person in the eye.
SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.
EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams. People who don’t have dreams don’t
have much.
NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only
way to live life completely.
TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
ELEVEN. Don’t judge people by their relatives.
TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.
THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile
and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great
risk.
FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear
someone sneeze.
SIXTEEN. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson
SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others;
and Responsibility for all your actions.
EIGHTEEN. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
NINETEEN. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to
correct it.
TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your
voice.
TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone.
Now, here’s the FUN part!
Send this to at least 5 people and your life will improve.
1-4 people: Your life will improve slightly.
5-9 people: Your life will improve to your liking.
9-14 people: You will have at least 5 surprises in the next 3 weeks
15 and above: Your life will improve drastically and everything you ever
dreamed of will begin to take shape.
A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your
heart.
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Prince William and Kate Middleton Wedding
Can you guess who's engagement ring is this?
Right, this was the late Princess Diana's ring but now owned by Kate Middleton. Prince William proposed to Kate Middleton using the 18-carat sapphire and diamond engagement ring that belonged to his mother. So what does the famous ring look like? It’s the dazzling oval, 18-carat blue sapphire and white diamond ring that the late Princess Diana chose after becoming engaged to Charles in 1981. Kate Middleton has no royal connections. She grew up in Bucklebury, England, a small village about 45 miles west of central London. Her parents are millionaire entrepreneurs who run Party Pieces, an online children’s party supplies business.
Prince William and Kate Middleton seem to enjoy a less high-profile style than Princess Diana and Prince Charles, so their royal wedding may be on a much smaller scale. Most Brits are delighted that the young Prince William will soon take a bride, even if she does not come from Royalty herself. Everyone's excited for their wedding this coming on Friday April 29. It was revealed that the regal pair have employed Beverly Hills designer, Kenneth Bordewick for the task at hand.
Kate Middleton is currently living with her fiance at a house in Anglesey, giving them some privacy from the press and paparazzi. The couple will continue living there after the wedding. After the wedding, Prince William and Kate plan to settle into a picturesque farmhouse in the Welsh countryside. Sizing up at 4,000 square feet, the humble abode will be surrounded by rolling lawns, and farmland. We even hear that Prince William will not have too far of a commute as the property is located near the Royal Air Force base (Anglesey, North Wales).
Good luck to their wedding!
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Friday Analysis by funny guy
Funny thing how this guy explains and analyze the "Friday" by Rebecca Black. He looks like high or something. Sense of humor i guess, he's funny.
Saturday, April 9, 2011
Rebecca Black's "Friday"
It’s Friday, Friday
Gotta get down on Friday
Everybody's lookin' forward to the weekend, weekend
Yesterday was Thursday, Thursday
Today i-is Friday, Friday (Partyin')
We-we-we so excited
We so excited
We gonna have a ball today
Everybody's lookin' forward to the weekend, weekend
Yesterday was Thursday, Thursday
Today i-is Friday, Friday (Partyin')
We-we-we so excited
We so excited
We gonna have a ball today
Familiar with this song? FRIDAY the very controversial music video as of now, which got 237,285 likes, 1,839,721 dislikes. Can you imagine that? More dislikes than likes! wow to that! They even consider her music video to be the "worst song ever" or "worst song in recorded history". Come to think of that.
So the question is..
How was Rebecca Black discovered really?
Well she was not discovered, her parents paid for her to be famous. She had her parents pay producers to write a song for her and to record a music video. Rebecca Black's mother, Georgina Kelly, paid Ark Music $4,000 for a song and accompanying video that included a choice of two pre-written songs. According to Kelly, the payment covered one half or less of the production costs of the music video, and Black's family could have paid nothing in exchange for giving up all rights to the song. The video was shot in at their house with friends and family as extras and requiring multiple takes over 12 hours. UNFORTUNATELY the song has received almost universally negative reviews. So do you think its all worth the price?
How was Rebecca Black discovered really?
Well she was not discovered, her parents paid for her to be famous. She had her parents pay producers to write a song for her and to record a music video. Rebecca Black's mother, Georgina Kelly, paid Ark Music $4,000 for a song and accompanying video that included a choice of two pre-written songs. According to Kelly, the payment covered one half or less of the production costs of the music video, and Black's family could have paid nothing in exchange for giving up all rights to the song. The video was shot in at their house with friends and family as extras and requiring multiple takes over 12 hours. UNFORTUNATELY the song has received almost universally negative reviews. So do you think its all worth the price?
Do you think rebecca black will continue becoming famous?
Many says they don't see any fame for this girl but with these news headlines saying "the next teen sensation" or "the next Justin Beiber". Might be, might not. There are compared to each other because of the same starting situation:
Justin Bieber - Baby Music Video
608,796 Likes
1,231,212 Dislikes
Rebecca Black - Friday Music Video
237,285 Likes
1,839,721 Dislikes
608,796 Likes
1,231,212 Dislikes
Rebecca Black - Friday Music Video
237,285 Likes
1,839,721 Dislikes
(It surpassed Justin Bieber's "Baby" as the most disliked YouTube video.)
But there are lots of differences between Rebecca Black and Justin Beiber. Justin is really talented, he worked hard to make videos and to become famous the REAL way. While Rebecca was so desperate, that she had her parents pay producer's to write a song for her. She is weird and crazy, and the idea that she got the fame using her parents money is so unfair! She is famous for being a terrible singer and gets made fun of way more than Justin. i love the way how Charlie Sheen said it,
"Rebecca Black, we don't hate you because you're famous. You're famous because we hate you."
EXACTLY! It's just that.. You don't get her, right?
"Rebecca Black, we don't hate you because you're famous. You're famous because we hate you."
EXACTLY! It's just that.. You don't get her, right?
Friday, April 8, 2011
Ashitaba Ice Cream?? Wow..
Wow.. Hachijo Island, Japan has also made ice creams out of Ashitaba leaves. They called it Ashitaba Icecream. Salute to that! That is the healthiest and greatest ice cream ever! ! =3
Ashitaba for Sale
Ashitaba (Tomorrow's Leaf)
For some who is not familiar with Ashitaba or what they call "Tomorrow's Leaf", it was discovered in Hachijo Island (Japan).
It is considered effective in treating the following disorders:
It is not difficult to ascertain why Ashitaba exerts so many positive effects on health when you consider the road range of nutrients it contains - including 11 different types of vitamins and 13 minerals. Nutritional analysis even reveals that a 100 grams of Ashitaba powder contains the beta-carotene content equivalent to four carrots, the vitamin B2 content equivalent to 28 cloves of garlic, the vitamin C content equivalent to 4 lemons, and nine times the amount of iron found in spinach. It also contains vitamins B1, B3, B5, B6, biotin, folic acid, and the minerals calcium, magnesium, potassium, phosphorous, zinc, copper, manganese, sulphur and silicon.
Most plants are devoid of vitamin B12, which is normally only obtainable through meat, fish and eggs. However, Ashitaba is a good source of this nutrient, making it an ideal supplement for strict vegetarians and vegans, who omit these foods from their diets and are at risk of suffering from a deficiency. A shortage of B12 can cause serious cognitive and nervous system problems, in addition to increasing the risk of cardiovascular disease and pernicious anaemia.
Ashitaba Leaf for Sale
Thursday, April 7, 2011
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